With Love

Just remember to do everything with love
That was the advise given to me
I don’t like advice
I think it’s overstated and mostly bullshit

But this stuck with me
You see I had a kid recently
So an old friend told me
“Try to do everything with love, your children will mirror your mood”

How does one try to do everything with love?
I mean what is it about doing things with love?

I guess it starts with ourselves and how we treat ourselves

“How long would you be friends with someone who spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself?”

So love yourself
This means stop judging myself and comparing myself to some idolised version that I have in my head
I am what I am and that’s okay
Some people love me and others hate me
It’s all good

The next is how I treat those closet to me
My wife
My parents/brothers
My friends
Am I coming from a place of love?

Do I ask them how they are?
Do I listen when they talk?
Am I honest and do empathize with them?
Am I patient?

I need to be there for them more and more.

The final area is how I interact with people?
Is it possible to bring love into this small interaction?
Can I be kind?
Can I look into someone’s eye and say thanks?
Am I able to compliment people in a heartfelt and sincere:way, not caring who hears it?
Can I give love?

I hope as a new father that my kid can feel my love.
To be honest I don’t know how I feel yet about my son.
I probably haven’t faced up to it yet
I have been treating it as a task to complete
Which is wrong
I will come around
But if there is one thing I want my son to say is that I loved him
Even if I don’t know it yet.