Synopsis – A book of principles for men to follow live their best lives with their family, friends, and themselves. There were so many quotes here that I have not added my own interpretation.
Key Takeaways
Chapter 1 – It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift. The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way
Chapter 2 – Do not close down in pain, a superior man is free in action whether in great hurt or pleasure. It better to live with a broken heart rather than a closed on, learn to stay with the pain and act from love in that place
Chapter 3 – Be free from your father expectations and criticisms, only in this way can you be a free man and give your unique gift
Chapter 4 – A man shouldn’t pretend he is more then he is, nor should he stop short of his edge. He must live on his edge. Don’t be dishonourable by lying or living safe. The more honest and at your edge you are, the more authentic, trusted and present you will be
Chapter 5 – Make your life an ongoing process of being who you are, at your deepest, most easeful levels of being.
Chapter 6 – You should always listen to your women and then make your own decision. Never betray your own deepest knowledge and intuition in order to please or follow a women. Be authentic otherwise you will grow to resent each other.
Chapter 7 – Your mission is your highest priority. Unless you know your mission and have aligned your life to it, your core will feel empty. Your presence in the world will be weakened, as will your presence with your intimate partner.
Chapter 8 – In any given moment, a man’s growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort, constantly, in everything he does.
Chapter 9 – Lean into your fears and give everything you got, you can penetrate your women and your world from your core, burst into love without limit. Do it with love.
Chapter 10 – To receive a criticism is to receive masculine energy. If you have bad masculine energy than you will not be able to make use of that criticism.
Chapter 11 – The core of your life is your purpose, everything in your life flows from that purpose. Support that purpose in your life by aligning your life to those goals. The superior man does not seek fulfilment through his work and women, they are opportunities to give his gift and be lost in the gift of giving
Chapter 12 – You must be prepared to give 100% to your purpose. It is as if your deepest purpose is at the centre of your being, and it is surrounded by layers of concentric circles, each circle being a lesser purpose. Your life consists of penetrating each circle, from the outside toward the centre.
Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring and useless. Then it should be discarded.
You stay open to a vision of your purpose by not filling your time with distractions. Don’t watch TV or play computer games. Don’t go our drinking or play games every night. Simply wait.
You give your gift 100%, without holding anything back.
Chapter 13 – If a man never discovers his deepest purpose, or if he compromises it and uses his family as an excuse he will become weakened and he loses depth and presence. The test of your fullness in every moment is your capacity to die in free and loving surrenders, knowing you did everything you could do to give your gift.
Chapter 14 – Tasks don’t get a man any more conscious or free than he is capable of being in this present moment. If your tasks are not supporting your life, you must drop or change them. To help you remember the triviality of your life use reminders like death, consider the most enlightened or the mystery of life.
Chapter 15 – Stop hoping for your women to get easier, she will not stop testing your capacity to remain unperturbed in your truth and purpose. She will test you to feel your love, freedom and to see if your trustworthy. Tests include, complaining, challenging, changing her mind, distracting and doubting you. She will always test you to feel your self-generated strength of truth. Remain full, strong, humorous, and happy when tested.
Chapter 16 – Women interpretation of truth and lie is less concrete than a man’s interpretation. The feminine says what it feels, like the wind or ocean, the sound you hear is her feeling-energy. Establish love in intimacy first.
Chapter 17 – The masculine grows by challenge, the feminine grows by praise, be unabashed in your appreciation for your women. Praise the tiny quality you want to grow, tell her how sexy she is when she sweats to encourage exercise.
Chapter 18 – The whole point of intimacy is to serve each other in growth and love, instead of tolerating your women’s mood swings, open her with skilful loving. She could do it without you but if you can grow together you will penetrate her to the core.
Chapter 19 – Don’t analyse your women, love is in a constant cycle, high and low-pressure systems, when your women feels the love free flowing you can evaporate her mood into joy. Your love is water to a flower, take care of your garden.
Chapter 20 – Don’t suggest that a woman fix her own emotional problem, she wants a man who can work it out for himself. She wants to be led in a direction and surrender to you. Love is the feminine priority, not purpose and direction.
Chapter 21 – Keep your breath full, keep your body strong, keep your attention present, give love, stay with her, the game of life is to find each situation workable and give your fullest gift. Stay with your women.
Chapter 22 – Don’t force the feminine to make decisions. “Whatever you want” is the statement of a friend not lover. Play the masculine pole for your women. Say “I’d like the red shoes, but what’s the most important to me is that you are happy”. Help your women make decisions by giving her your perspective and let her know that you will love her regardless.
Chapter 23 – The feminine are a blessing, enjoy it, allow the energy of attraction to move freely through your body. Learn to magnify and sustain your desire, so your whole body and breath open and deepen by force, behold her vison as a blessing.
Chapter 24 – Choose a woman who compliments you, you will always be attracted to your sexual reciprocal.
Chapter 25 – Know what is important in your women, by talking about the everyday you turn your woman into a neutral companion. If you want a sexual partner, don’t expect her to be an accountant or house maid, don’t squash her fullness of her feminine energy into merely functional roles. Give her the opportunity to awaken your heart and fill your body with life.
Chapter 26 – Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion.
Chapter 27 – Youthful women offer a special energy, as a man, it is your responsibility to honour the heart-rejuvenating gift of a young woman, without violating this honour by imposing your sexual desires on her.
Chapter 28 – Some women are hotter; some are cooler and by understanding how different temperatures of feminine energy affect you.
Chapter 29 – If a man wants a woman who doesn’t want him, his neediness will undermine any possible relationship.
Chapter 30 – What she says is not what she wants, a man must remember that her trust is built by magnifying love, consciousness, and success in their lives, despite her requests.
Chapter 31 – A man should hear his woman’s complaints like warning bells, and then do his best to align his life with his truth and purpose. Her complaints should be valued as a reminder to “get it together” and perhaps as an indication as to how. You know the amount of bullshit you are kidding yourself with. So does she. It just hursts her more than it does you.
Chapter 32 – If a woman has become the point of your life, you are lost. You have a gift to give, a purpose to fulfill, a deep heart-impulse that moves you.
Chapter 33 – A mans track record mean nothing to her, the feminine energy responds to the moment. While the masculine bases allot on past performance.
Chapter 34 – A woman must be able to trust you, to take charge if she is to relax her masculine edge. You must relieve her of the necessity to be in charge. What matters is if she can feel your loving clarity, wisdom, and certainty of direction.
Chapter 35 – The essential masculine ecstasy is in the moment of release from constraint. This could occur when facing death and living through it, succeeding in your purpose and competition or the post-orgasmic state. The capacity to face death for the sake of freedom is the ultimate masculine act, evoking men’s deepest emotions.
Chapter 36 – Own your darkest desires, if you disown your darkest desires then you kink the hose of your own masculine force. This will weaken your capacity to stand fearless in the face of death. If you are afraid to yield yourself completely to love with your women, then you will also be afraid to yield completely to divine freedom. You will feel full of your own tension and so attempt to empty yourself in the conventional masculine habits of TV, ejaculation, and work. Learn to let go absolutely, Feel her absolutely and let go absolutely. In the midst of this self-yielding allow your entire masculine desire to manifest, dark and light. Do and be everything you ever wanted with her with deep feelings of love. Such fearlessness will prepare you for and perhaps even initiate you into the worship and trust of consciousness itself, such that you will find greater and greater capacity to yield and as the boundless one who you truly are
Chapter 37 – A women wants the killer in her man. She is turned off if her man is sacred to get out of bed and find out if a burglar made the noise. The capacity to transcend the fear of death for the sake of loves is the essence of the masculine gift. The knowledge of death makes you humble and courageous. She wants to feel your darkside. Penetrate her with your essesnce, light and dark and she wants feel it all. And you need to feel through ad through and through.
Chapter 38 – You need to be conscious/present to match her energy, match her energy in anger, in fear, in love and in passion. Embrace her. Penetrate her moods. Your body, tone of voice, and the look in your eyes mean lot more to her than anything you could say. Don’t tell her what to do, but do it with her, with your body, dance with her, kiss her and hold her. Be fearless
Chapter 39 – There is never a shortage of feminine energy, only a resistance to receiving, trusting and embracing it.
Chapter 40 – Men should support older women in their wisdom, power, initiative and healing capacities.
Chapter 41 – When you feel lust don’t disperse the energy in mental fantasy, breathe fully, circulate the energy, treat the extra energy as a gift and use that energy and give is to the world. Don’t let energy become lodged in your head or genitals but circulate throughout your body with use of your breath.
Chapter 42 – Never allow your desire to become suppressed or depolarised. Every moment you treat your women as simply a childcare helper or a buddy, you are neutralizing your sexual polarization. If you notice your women is withdrawn, then treat her like a goddess and give her your heart and body. The superior man does this even when depolarised.
Chapter 43 – In your worship of women, never forget that they die. In your enjoyment of pleasure and delight, never forget that your sensations and feelings are fleeting, and never enough. Only your deepest purpose can satisfy you. You are that which you seek. Give her what you want from her, give it all to her, give it away to her, give so much of what you want from her that you can no longer tell.
Chapter 44 – Ejaculation should be converted or consciously chosen. Excess ejaculations will diminish your courage to take risks, you settle for doing enough to get by, be comfortable. Looking at your phone rather then making business calls. It’s important to remember that your women doesn’t only feel your genetical penetration, she feels you yielding into her through love. It is the fullness of your presence that most ravishes her. If woman can drain you with a flick of a tongue, a silky moan or tilt of pelvis, she will know life can drain you as well.
Chapter 45 – Breathe down the front, practise your breath throughout the day.
Chapter 46 – The technique for converting depletive orgasms into rejuvenate orgasms involves contracting the pelvic floor near and drawing energy upward along the spine, through the use of breath, feeling and intention. Learn to relax in sex, your muscles, your mind and your intention.
Page 47 – Only when you are willing to support each other’s core desires, the intimacy to give each what you want will arise.
Page 48 – You are responsible for the growth in intimacy
Page 49 – Insist on practice and growth and direction in life as a masculine priority, even in an intimate relationship
Page 50 – Restore your purpose in solitude with other men. The two ways to bring you right to your masculine edge of power are austerity and challenge. Austerity means to eliminate the comforts and cushions in your life, take away anything that dulls your edge. The other means rediscovering your masculine core is through challenge, giving you gift in ways that has always been blocked by your fear
Page 51 – Like dissolving in the intensity of an orgasm a man’s greatest desire is to be utterly released. Fear is your final excuse. Don’t fight it. Love through it.
Final Thoughts – Be the best version of what you are meant be, live ethically and be honest not just with people but with yourself and your time. Connect through love and be unshakable when challenged, move forward one step at a time. There are so many great things in this book. I do not agree with everything but most things. 8.5/10
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