Most of my anger stems from feelings about myself,
When I am angry I am expressing displeasure not only at the other person but mostly me.
How can they keep me waiting?
How can they be so lazy?
How can they drive so badly?
Really what I am saying is
You see, your that lazy or you are a crappy driver or your always late. My anger at these trivialities stems from myself.
Anger tires me out like no other emotion, sure it gives me short rush but after that I am done, its like I am over heating.
Now I need to ask myself would someone who loved me react this way?
Would someone who loved me be upset that I was 5 mins late?
Would a loving person be upset that you have a lazy day?
The answer is no, the loving person would most likely be unaffected by these little things, it wouldn’t bother them.
If the loving person sees himself being lazy they would give themselves the right kind of encouragement. The right kind not the wrong kind. They wouldn’t curse or belittle person, they would think how that person would react and try not to hurt them.
The first reaction of anger stems from not looking at the situation from a place of love and compassion.
How angry can you be at yourself for being 5, 10, or 15 minutes late. You can’t be that angry.
Personally I am person with allot of anger and hate, it comes to me so naturally, to rage and to judge. Any judgement on the outside world ultimately is me judging myself.
Stranger in Sydney 